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UPDATE!  I just spoke to our new priest and he was great!  He’s writing a letter stating that he has no objections to our plans!!  WOO HOO!!  He reminds me of my old priests…and I am so excited!   One hurdle down!  Fingers crossed.

First, I have to say what amazing people I have in my life.  J happened to call me in the middle of all of this crap last night and ended up, bottle of wine in hand, at my place last night where we proceeded to drink, talk, and generally just have girl time until 11:30pm.

There are a number of people I want to thank, but you all know who you are.  I’m a very lucky lady indeed.

As for the rest of it, I will play by the rules.  We will see what happens.  The one thing I know, I won’t let this ruin my view of the day or dappen my spirits.

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I have been Catholic my entire life.

I was born Catholic.

I was baptised.

I took my first communion.

I was confirmed.

I spent one afternoon a week at CCD, one afternoon a week during the school year for 11 years.  11 years.

I have not been the perfect Catholic, but I have always been a good person, I have always tried, I have always believed.

The boy and I set a date and signed the reception contract today (the great news).  So I decided that I needed to get a hold of the church I’d like to use.  Now, let me say there’s a LOT of backstory here.  I attend one church that I don’t really care for, but b/c the Bishop and USPS are apparently in some sick, twisted agreement I “belong” to them.  There word, not mine, don’t even get me started since I corrected the priest today 3 or 4 times that I am a MEMBER (they don’t own me). 

The majority of my life, I figured I would get married at my church in the ‘burg.  Then 3 years ago, my parents moved.  Suddenly it doesn’t make much sense.  I don’t really love my church here, and the boy and I wanted a small church, an intimate church.  We chose to have everythign here so people wouldn’t have to travel another 2 hours after flying in.  We want those we love around us, isn’t that what God would want??

I have been…hysterical doesn’t even cover it, for the last 45 mins.  I’m finally calm enough now and I have to get this out, though not too much detail so that I can keep my composure.  I want the man who is our deacon from the ‘burg to marry us-he has seen me through everything from first communion to confirmation.  I take marriage seriously, both of us do, and I want some tie from my past to perform the service.  But the Bishop here in Arlington says that I must marry in my “home” church.  We found one in Leesburg by the reception site.  I called them.  I bit my tongue a lot.  The priest kept saying it’s just a “convience thing”.  Maybe so.  Maybe I want those I love to be close, maybe it’s already enough to ask them to travel to DC.  Finally I explained that I am not just some girl who saw a pretty church that she wants to get married in, that my faith is important to me. 

He finally understood, or I thought.  He said he appreciated my sincerty.  I was glad he understood and was willing to work with me.  I explained that being married in the Catholic Church is exceptionally important.  Then he said the words that cut me…

“If you don’t get married in the Catholic Church, your marriage is invalid, it does not exsist to God”. 

He said it 3 or 4 times.  He seemed to want to accomodate but only to a degree-if an actual “member” of the church wanted our wedding date they would get it even if we reserved it first, but he was willing to work with me…sort of. 

UPDATE:  I just got off of the phone w/ my old Deacon who I really want to marry us and he’s going to!!  He’s even going to work with us to get the church we want, but regardless he’ll marry us.  How good to know that some really do care…I am so happy that he’ll marry us

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